On April 26, 2010, I started a journey I thought would’ve been long done by now.[Read more…]
Just in time for Valentine’s Day…
“Play the best songs by AC/DC”. That was me this morning as I started my 1.5 hour drive from my dentist. (If you think that’s long, consider it’s a 5 hour flight from my house.) Up until last night, I never thought I’d say those words conjuring up an AC/DC playlist.
If I’m being all the way real, the only AC/DC I knew involved alternating and direct currents. (Yay for science!)
Anyway, here’s how it happened, which was so fast you might even day I was … Thunderstruck.[Read more…]
It’s almost 11:30pm pst as I sit down to write this. I’m back in my hotel — and for the 3rd time in as many nights my mind is taking me to the same place.
Kobe Bean Bryant aka the Black Mamba.
In case you’re not familiar, Kobe was a retired nba superstar who will be going into the hall of fame as one of the greatest players to ever touch a basketball. I say “was” because he died over the weekend in a helicopter crash, along with his second oldest daughter GiGi.
Tributes have been pouring in from Kobe’s friends, mentors, and fans all over the world.
Some people have come out against all of the tributes because of his widely publicized sexual assault case that was settled in 2005.
To the second group of people I say, people can be two things at the same time. And sometimes people can evolve into different things overtime.
That doesn’t change the past or any harm done, but that is a part of humanity. Each of us has to decide what we do with that fact.
It’s always strange how people react when they have to confront their own mortality. So while I never considered myself a hardcore Kobe fan (I grew up more of a Michael Jordan fan), his death has me thinking about a couple of things.
First — his impact on his profession and how to apply that in other fields. Or to put it more simply…
I’m thinking about The Mamba Mentality.
If I had to describe this mentality, I think the best way is an unwillingness to let anyone outwork you. No exceptions.
If you take that commitment… that obsession… and apply it to whatever you do, you will always outperform your peers.
Think about that the next time you don’t want to do that next self-study course or go to that conference.
Second — and more importantly — I’m thinking about family. Kobe left a wife and three other daughters behind.
GiGi left a mother and three sisters behind.
And there’s no amount of money that’s going to take their pain away.
So while I’m all about grinding and climbing to the top of your career, remember why you’re doing what you do. Remember the loved ones around you — and make time to create forever memories with them. And do it in whatever way works for you.
That’s the most important advice I can ever give.
To your happiness,
“How do you all keep from getting weak mentally to keep driving on?”
That was a question posed in one of my Facebook groups and it couldn’t have been more timely.[Read more…]
Imposter syndrome can do a number on your confidence.
You know what I’m talking about — that feeling when you volunteer to step into something new but you don’t know exactly what you’re doing.
You’re afraid of failing because you’re exposed as maybe not such an expert after all and you think everyone else around you knows more than you do.
If you’ve ever felt this way, I’m sure you thought having this feeling was a bad thing but I have some news for you.[Read more…]
Have you ever been around a little kid where they blurted out the 100% truth and the parent responds by saying “he doesn’t know what he’s saying”…
… or reprimanding the kid by saying “we don’t say things like that.” or ‘that’s not nice.”
I learned a different perspective on this last week.[Read more…]
In the movie Black Panther, there’s a foundational moment when the character Zuri explains why he left a child behind to fend for himself in inner city Oakland — after watching the king kill the child’s father.
And to add to that, the man the king killed was his brother…
… and that abandoned child grows up to be the ruthless yet relatable villain known as Killmonger.
The best explanation Zuri could come up with is “we had to maintain the lie.”
He told himself that every day until it ultimately caught up with him and he met his end at the hands of Killmonger.
Now why on earth am I talking to you about a comic book movie?![Read more…]
A reader recently left a comment on the article I shared about how to take notes in meetings like the rich and powerful.
Here’s what she said when I asked what she found to be the most helpful piece of information in the article:[Read more…]
My friend sent me this article about the current best hook man in the music game, T-Pain, cancelling an upcoming tour. And there are all kinds of business gems to take from this, but first a quick clarification…[Read more…]
I hugged a cactus this weekend.
It was a special kind of cactus — one you can’t find just anywhere.
And this particular cactus I was embracing wasn’t on some weekend camping trip in the desert…
… this cactus was actually in a little shopping center right outside of Atlanta, and I plan to keep going back to hug it over and over again. [Read more…]